Tuesday, May 26

Whips and chains!

Slavery in the bedroom? Sex columnist Dorothy Black can't see the harm in a bit of spanking...

BDSM, or bondage domination sadomasochism, has had a bad rap from the vanillas since the whole Judeo-Christian thing came into fashion and it became de rigeur for citizens to polarise life, the universe and everything into Good and Evil and copulate only in the missionary position.

And while times they may be a-changing, most of us would still shuffle in our seats if someone mentioned that they were a sub who got off on being being collared, tied up and whipped. Read more...

So the research on this was so interesting to me. For anyone thinking of trawling the internetwebs for BDSM be warned that what you will find will give you as much insight into the reality of everyday BDSM relationships as what 'normal' porn does into 'normal' relationships. It's a bad reference basically.

Unfortunately i wasn't able to plug KINX leatherware products as i wanted to. because DAMN that some well made shit there.

these babies are my favourite. who needs nasty chinese metal handcuffs that hurt and cut tendons when you have fine leather wrist cuffs and a little bit of rope. they're truly beautiful. the ones i fell in love with had pink detailing. just love that.

as an addendum to the column some other stuff BurningLash pointed out was the fact that of the 11 000 + members on the site, most are subs and of those most are men. only 500 of the subs are actually women.

who's been a bad boy then?

I don't think the full on pain thing would be my gig. As BL points out unless you're loving it and 100% consensual its abuse. i think i'll just stick to the B of BDSM....and maybe a bit of the D... but that's IT.

over and out plums.
x

*apart from the cuffs both images are from photobucket. thanks nameless peoples.

9 comments:

Sparky said...

I'm really looking forward to test driving the velcro versions of those cuffs I picked up...both on me, and my next potential unfortunate.

the friend whom I bought another pair for thanked me profusely...he's never had such a good night's sleep with his wife all bundled up.

ha ha ha ha.

dorothy said...

LOL the velcro ones were pretty cool...and my birthday's only, like five months away :)

Sparky said...

well, so much for the paddle that spanks little red heart shapes then.

*donates to charity*

nursemyra said...

I think that nurse in the green might be me ;-)

dorothy said...

LOL nursemyra your secret's out! sparky the paddle'll do also :)

sparky said...

score!

beaverboosh said...

Hey D, Most excellent blog! You know I like to try to keep on top of women's issues. BB P.S. with ya on the B an D

dorothy said...

dear BB - very pleased to be of resource to you...
ps what is a boosh?

beaverboosh said...

french for mouth (parochial spelling)... we are not just a beaver loving nation, we are a multi-tongued one, of sorts