Thursday, February 11

What's your slut number?

Hi everyone. My name is Dorothy Black and I’m a slut.

If you read my column regularly, you’ll easily draw the conclusion that I’ve slept with more than one person in my lifetime.

And you’ll be right.

I’ve slept with more people than you can count on your one hand. Or two. Including both feet’s toes. In the numbers game of what makes a woman a slut, I’ve passed ‘Go’ a whole lotta times. Read more...

plums.

the comments on this were staggering. i wasn't around to follow up on what people were writing, which is just as well, but came back to a whole lotta mails and twitter directs asking me if my skin had been thick enough to take the kind of crud people were dishing up.

almost didn't want to read the comments.

but then i did and it was just the usual blah blah, lonely whore blah blah will die of HIV/Aids blah blah and will never find a husband blah blah.

and i have some points i'd like to make in response to some dipshit comments:

the only part of that blah blah that pricks my ears is the whole issue of STDs and HIV/Aids.

if you're a regular reader of my columns you'll have noticed that i've written a column on STDs.

or rather, the conversations we're not having about STDs and HIV/Aids. because that is a reality here; a whole country of HIV/Aids spread primarily through fucking, but we can't even talk sex without finger-pointing.

my columns are little columns speaking to and about other city folk, generally single women.

what you may or may not have figured by now is that i write from this, the only reference point i know - middle-class city girl.

and i hang out with other city people.

we have enough money to go for regular gynae check-ups and get our cervixes inspected once a year (thanks for the concern commentator 'Dr') when we also go for a pap smear. we use contraception like the pill or IUDs AND condoms.

most of us are culturally enabled to say no. most of us have been allowed to learn that women are not second-class citizens.

i do not speak for the whole of mother-fucking south africa.

most of us are single and in our thirties. most of us are in and out of adult relationships in which we amuse ourselves by enjoying physical intimacy.

but it would seem that even in this 'enlightened' time, people would expect women to keep their legs together - at whatever age - and stay home, untouched, virginal, for that magical day Mr Right comes along to wed and bed our perfectly clean, untouched bodies.

because if we don't, we're sluts. whatever the circumstances.

i know i shouldn't rant about the poopl that click click click and hate hate hate and give me a platform from which to air my little views, but sometimes i just need to comment back.

oao plums.

10 comments:

LordFoom said...

You don't a hyphen for "mother-fucking". Say it loud, say it motherfucking proud.
Personally, I enjoy having sex with "sluts" then "normal girls" because the sex is better.

But it also seems that women have the upper hand when it comes to having sexual adventures. I think that is something that a lot of men have difficulty with - that the average woman is _able_ to have sex with more people than the average man, if she so chooses. Can sting.

Poegeyed said...

Snort. You hit the nail right on the head. I've never read some more moronic, bigoted and downright dangerous comments in all my life.
I too am a single girl who is not afraid to admit I enjoy sex, and not being in a relationship or doing it with one person always draws scandalous gasps from people.
well fuck em I say. If I'm being responsible, not hurting anyone and it makes me happy why can't you just let it be?
It always amazes me how people cannot abide others being free and happy.
It's just fucking sex people - get a grip!!!!!

dorothy said...

LF - i should say i'm sick and tired of these muthafuckin readers on this muthafuckin forum!

poegeyed - i know. so crazy. makes my blood boil.

Paige said...

fuck that for a joke. i'd be screwed without sex! bring it on in enormous guilt-free spoonfulls please.

those commenters don't quite know what they're missing!

time they pulled out the carrot me thinks.

love it

Shelldon said...

*sigh* Thank God for sluts, I love 'em all :)

Bordeaux said...

Oh Dorothy, I love you. And the fact that you are tough enough to take this kind of shit. I don't know if I could. We're all fucking sluts and I love it. And those who complain, well, clearly not and clearly not getting enough. And with the whole 'you're gonna get AIDS'. Blind.

jdean7ster said...

This archived article of Chris McEvoy seems appropriate at this time: http://www.channel24.co.za/Content/Articles/673/4115e5b7e8ff487dbd4f362a752845b9/20-05-2008-02-00/wwwyousuck#$^coza

nursemyra said...

yeah... I say fuck 'em too. but only metaphorically

Johnson said...

My definition of a girl's Slut Number : any number that doesn't include me. So I'll just go ahead and call you a slut Dorothy. No offence :)

dorothy said...

@NM - :D
@johnson - none taken.